Clearly, I didn't plan this post better because I am supposed to be getting up in two hours to flly to Germany. Yes, that means for the next 10 days there will be no updates, except for this one. It's rough and rushed, but this is what I have to say about Alpha Males. But be sure to check back to Carrie Ann's Blog Hop Site because there is a giveaway (I was supposed to do one too, but forgive me, I have run out of time).
If we look at the Wikipedia definition for social animals, Alpha Males eat first and mate first. The fourth definition of Alpha Male in the Urban dictionary describes them as young men who try to be the centre of attention, intimidate others, and have aggressive personalities that only become refined as these men become older. I was about to go from there when a Men's Health Magazine article caught my attention and listed some characteristics of an Alpha Male.
I do have to say that I agree with much of what I've found online as characteristics of an Alpha Male. A taller, well toned man with some stubble does make my head turn. A deeper voice and a sweet accent I also like to put down as a request, but a chiseled jaw and hair colour tend to be irrelevant for me. But that's not all that qualifies a male to be Alpha, it's also the way he presents himself: confident, ambitious (mayb not always be in the right direction, but it still counts), and proud. A sense of humour and a nice smile kind of tops it off for an Alpha Male.
OR being a little rough around the edges.
When I think of Alpha Males I tend associate action movies with them. It's like the only time anybody gets to see Alpha Males on display and in their elements. Unfortunately, Alpha Males in many movies don't have a reputation for treating their Leading Ladies with a whole lot of respect or like they're capable, so it's always sweet when there's a character that crops up that happens to be Alpha, heroic, and respectful.
As a 21st Century woman, I'm not afraid to take charge, make decisions, and keep my cool in situations some people will panic in. Though, being in charge can sometimes be exhausting and an Alpha Male seems like the type who would be able to step up to the plate and carry the torch for a day longer than I'd need because, of course, I'd want an Alpha Male with a bit of sensitivity and initiative.
Women's Health wrote an article awhile back about the disappearance of Alpha Males, and I'm speculating here, but I think more women fantasize about Alpha Males because there are fewer and fewer around these days? Or they're finding it easier to become Betas because women are increasing their Alpha qualities (what constitutes an Alpha Female anyway)?
The Urban Dictionary has some definitions for Betas, and describing their qualities along the lines of less charismatic, having less prowess, and less physical presence. Safe to say, they're typically not the bad boy alpha males we tend to fantasize about and the ones we tend to stay with in reality. Perhaps, as a society of women, we've come to realize Betas work hard too and are committed, thoughtful, and generous but aren't typically weaklings either. Even the media has started to reflect this trend.
Or maybe, we just want just the qualities from both Alpha and Beta males all wrapped into one?